GUEST BLOGGER KRISTIAN KELLY:
This week we are so excited to introduce to you, Kristian Kelly. We met Kristian through IIID Tulsa, the young adult ministry we are a part of. Although we have not known Kristian very long she quickly made a lasting impression in all of our hearts. Kristian is an amazing woman of God and someone who has so much wisdom and insight for this season of life. She is a beautiful example in how to successfully live life Unescorted!
Along with traveling the world for her travel website, www.travelchicks.tv, Kristian is a TV producer, a speaker, and lover of all things coffee. She believes in living a fearlessly, beautiful, extraordinary life. Check out her book, Sparkle, on Amazon http://www.amazon.com/Sparkle-Kristian-Kelly/dp/1495140628 and start living your own extraordinary life!
Learn more about Kristian at: firstname.lastname@example.org
Rae, MJ, & Sonia Dee
A WORD FROM KRISTIAN:
France was amazing. Everything I dreamed it would be. Full of life, fragrance, and beauty. In Paris we walked along the River Seine, passing stands where artists and bookseller offered up little tokens of their city to put on our shelves back home as a reminder of our journey to the city of love.
The cafes were filled with the most delicious pastries stuffed with chocolate, almonds, and even pistachio. A macchiato came in a tiny porcelain cup instead of the venti size we get at our local Starbucks (although I admit I did stop in at the local Starbucks one particulary chilly morning for a Venti). And in this leisurely city, they don’t bring you your check until you absolutely need it, and even then, seem surprised that you would be leaving so soon.
And yet, one particular night, as I sat in the hotel living room waiting for my friends to go to dinner, I found myself feeling despondent. You know, that feeling when the world feels amiss and your place in it? I was scrolling through one of my social media pages and noticed friend after friend who were newly “In a relationship,” “Married,” or had just had a baby.
Hold up! I was being left behind! What was I doing with my life? Where was my man? Why wasn’t I “in a relationship”? Shouldn’t I be married by now? Why didn’t I have a family yet? My mind was spinning with all the opportunities I may have missed, things I could have done differently, and paths I could have taken.
Then suddenly, like the loving father He is, I heard my Heavenly Father say, “Kristian, stop! Look around you. You are right where you are supposed to be. This is the season I have you in and it’s a beautiful season.”
And he was right. While I was looking at my friends getting married and starting families, they were looking at me traveling through Europe with friends. I was in my own unique and beautiful season of life. I put my phone away and went out to enjoy a delicious Parisian dinner under the stars.
It’s funny, though, that no matter what season of life you are in, the lie is almost always the same…
“You aren’t where you should be.”
“I should be with the right guy at this point.”
“I should be married by now.”
“I should be completing my degree already.”
“I should be in that dream job I’ve been working towards.”
“I should be the one having a baby shower.”
“I should have stayed single longer.”
“I should have waited to have kids.”
“I should have stayed at my other job longer.”
“I should…I should…I should…”
But who decides where you “should” be in life?
When we measure where we are in life by those standards, there are a lot of differing opinions. But when we measure where we are by God’s standards, there is only One.
Ecclesiastes 3:11 “He has made everything beautiful in its time.”
Psalm 31:15 “My times are in His hands.”
When I remind myself of this, I am able to find joy in each season. God has a plan and I can trust his plan. He promises that it’s a good one (Jeremiah 29:11) and that He will finish what he started (Philippians 1:6). I won’t let the thought of where I “should be” steal my joy of the present. Today is beautiful. And for all the other things that I am hoping for, I have to trust that He knows exactly what He’s doing. I am exactly where I should be – in HIS timing.
Our next and last day in Paris I headed off to the Eiffel Tower with a renewed excitement and joy! To some, it may seem like just another piece of architecture in a touristy city, but to me it represented the desire I always had of coming to France. It represented hope, adventure and a dream fulfilled.
As I stood looking out over the city, I realized, “I’ve done it! I actually did it.” The thing I have been dreaming about for so long actually happened. I came to France, ate pastries, drank coffee in the cafes, spoke broken French, saw the paintings, walked the river and climbed the Eiffel Tower. I am exactly where I am supposed to be at this moment in my life.”
Maybe I’m not married yet.
Maybe I’m still working towards my dream job.
Maybe there are many more dreams in my heart just bursting to come to life.
But I’ve seen the Eiffel Tower.
And if I’ve seen the Eiffel Tower then everything else is just as possible, or as the French say, “uhn poss-ee-blah.”
It’s only a matter of timing.